Michelle aka MUM
BABE VIBES is an interview series all about bad ass babes. Where I chat with millennial gals and guys who are (for the want of a better phrase) ‘killing it’ in their life, whatever that may look like. Intimate questions, career questions, silly and fun questions. We delve deep and get to the nitty gritty. My hope is to offer insights into worlds we may not otherwise see and connect like minded souls with their kin.
Today's BABE VIBES is really rather special. I'd like you to all meet one bad ass babe of a mother. I know I'm incredibly bias but I think she is pretty great. I've known her all my life, she's seen me at my most vulnerable (like the time I fainted out of a bath and got a black eye woo) and gives me the sternest words when I need them. She gets shite done. Meet Michelle, my Mum!
Tell us who you are
Hi im Michelle and Im a vegetarian capricorn
What is your spirit animal?
Elephant. They are big and loving and nurturing to young elephants but formidable with anyone else.If I was an elephant Id probably be called Prana or Psalm.
B: If my mum was an animal it would totally be an elephant. I fully agree with her on that one! That is a perfect depiction of my incredible mother.
How do you find balance in life and juggling all the things you do?
Meditate, meditate; meditate. It helps puts all the daily crap into perspective and in the grander scheme of it all; you kind of realise what anyone else has said or done really means nothing. It just helps me to let go and get on with things.
What does a typical day look like for you?
Wake up between 4.30-5.00am.Meditate for 30 mins,get all the kids lunches ready,all of the endless breakfasts shower then work.
What was it like raising me as a single mother?
It was great. it was us two against the world.we had so much fun. We went to music festivals, fashion shows, even a wedding show when you had a fleeting thought at 5 or 6 years old that you may be a wedding planner.
It was an amazing time and I learnt so much. I loved watching you blossom into the beautiful charismatic brilliant lady that you have become (my very own Rory Gilmore) you must admit that the similarities are kinda weird.
B: naw mum you are tooooo sweet *cough* when I'm interviewing you for my blog. But seriously what you said means a lot to me. Thanks for being proud of me!
What was the most challenging part of that? (cos i know i was a challenge)
Well...as we now call them: the dark ages. When you had anorexia. Watching the only thing that I loved more than anything in the world hate herself so much that she would deprive herself of food and slowly kill herself. It was heartbreaking.
If there was anything from your past that you would change what is it and why?
Yes I would've bought that damn handbag in Dublin. It haunts me.
And that bloody Liberty globe.
B: your two regrets. Honestly, you should of done it. Heed your own wise words mum!! If you see it, like it then buy it.
What do you think about 'millenials' these days or people my age?
You guys are way too stressed. You have put so much pressure on yourselves to be the best of the best that you end up burning out and suffering anxiety and or depression. What about just being the best that you can be. Who cares what anyone else thinks. If they're truly your friend they'll love you no matter what.
What do you think we need to learn? / what advice would you give us?
Stop being so hard on yourselves and realise that you have already accomplished so much. Stop comparing yourselves to others. They probably don't have to go through the same crap as you. Be yourself and seriously stop caring about what others think!
What keeps you up at night?
Presently??? The kids. Trying to figure out how I can buy a bigger house (without selling this one) so that they can all have their own rooms before they kill each other.
But I suppose its having to stay in a soul destroying job that I have no passion for because I have to do what I have to do for the time being. Trying to finish my book and start my business. Sometimes it seems so much easier to just sleep.
Whats the best piece of advice you've received?
Have no regrets you can't change the past
What did you learn from being in the army?
After the Army you can pretty much tackle anything
It gave me the determination to succeed and to push for what I want. To never give up but to look for alternate ways to get to where I need to get to. To try and think each situation through thoroughly but with speed. And not to second guess any decision that I have made. I can't change it,so just get on with it.
What is your most vivid memory of your childhood?
Other than my infamous birthday dinners? lol. Going to my grandmas. I loved her so much. Her perfume on her dresser. The scent would float down the hallway and would surround you like a soft cashmere blanket. She was a strong powerful business woman who did whatever she pleased whenever she pleased. I really admired her strength and courage.
How do you think your childhood has affected the way you are today?
Hmmmmm well some say I am a tad like gangan (grandma) lol and I'll take that as a compliment thankyou very much!
I grew up with my father not being around much and when he was he wasn't the nicest person to us kids or mum. Adultery and deceit was common for him. My mum was always crying and sad. I was determined not to have a marriage like that but as it turns out my marriage ended up just like that. lol.
Tell us about a moment in your week where you felt on top of the world. just really really good; a babe vibe moment?
Well thats usually after I meditate in the morning. I feel amazing
What are you most proud of?
I am most proud of you. I truly am. Everything that you have accomplished and the young lady that you have become.
I was also proud of sending you to Corran.
My job at Fletchers. I loved it there. Funny how I was made redundant after 15 years as Sales/Marketing manager exactly a month before you graduated university.
That job put you through the most expensive private school, they paid for half of your university and just as that phase of your life finished, so did mine.
I was proud of taking you to Europe for your 18th birthday. I really thought that like me, you would love France...boy was I wrong, but hey at least we got to sample $20 A SCOPE lemon ice cream in Switzerland. That was hilarious!
What scares you?
Money. Living in Auckland with 6 kids is pretty darn expensive. Although I can usually figure out a plan of how to make things work.
How do you pick yourself up and get shit done when you're feeling sad or overwhelmed?
Well, everyday after work I ring my gorgeous daughter Britney and chat for about an hour on my drive home. We brain storm and come up with fantastic ideas of how to overcome a problem. It usually turns out to be more of an opportunity than a problem.
What advice would you pass on
Dont let fear rule your life, you'll never do anything or go anywhere. Your life is there to live...so live.
Basically have experieces. Give everything a go. Why not? That'll help you to be the best that you can be. Thats all you can do. Be you're authentic self.
Remember our family moto that we invented?
"what do they know?" kinda rings true for us.we always give everything a go.
Honestly this has been the most inspiring Babe Vibes for me yet. So thankyou mum for motivating me to just be me, raising me to be a fine lady and of course for taking the time to answer my questions. I love you to the moon and back. Thanks ducky.
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